Assessments

During my push for shared custody in the Family Courts for my daughters, I had to pay half for an assessment. This was no problem until well after I had the assessment and the assessment basically allowed me more time with my daughters, but did not allow me shared custody and took my joint custody from me. At first I was alright with it all. Until my oldest daughter informs (without prompting) that, and I quote, "Mommy made me tell the assessment guy what to say." My daughter feels guilty about this and I feel so bad because what kind of parent would do that. Well I know what kind of parent, but truly, how sad. My ex told my daughter that she needed to think about the family and her younger sister. All I ever told my girls when that day approached to speak with the assessor was to tell the truth. I understand why my eldest said what she said. For fear of her mother and what she would have to put up with if she didnt say what she was supposed to. It's almost a year and a half later and my eldest daughter asked me if she could send an email to one of the men she spoke to at children's aid. He had told her during an open file investigation of my ex that if my daughter ever needed to talk, to contact him. She said she can't make contact with him from her email address cause her mommy checks it all the time and she can't call. So she asked if I could help her make a second email address and then contact this worker. I helped her and supported her but at no time did I ever tell her what to say or do. I hope she gets the help she is looking for.

After spending the weekend at her mothers and on my next access date, she stated to my girlfriend (who told me later) that she understands why my dad is not with my mom anymore. I don't know how any man can be with that woman. This is from my daughters own mouth about her mother. I truly hope and pray that my daughter will be alright.

I can only imagine what my Family Court Order would have granted me had the assessment not been manipulated by my ex. Too late now. I think this will all come back and bite my ex in the ass. I guess they call that karma. We will see.